I’ve been blessed to learn there are a large number of companies that value bringing Veterans to their teams. Despite the number of Veteran friendly companies, there still seems to be some misconceptions about Veterans, especially those who have been to war. Honestly, the number of Veterans who have experienced the combat “fighting” portrayed in Hollywood movies are becoming far less common.

Contrary to some belief, not all Veterans have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). It’s not anyone’s fault if they think that, the 24-hour news cycle and Hollywood tend to hyperbolize Veteran experiences. As a career Infantryman my combat…

A story about my father and me

My decision to write about my story took a while. I realize that once it’s released to the ether, I can’t get it back. Despite my apprehension, I know other people may have suffered similar challenges. I’m not sure why we all live in a facade while suffering underneath. This phenomenon seems to be the norm since social media has so effectively proliferated our lives.

I’ve also struggled with the prospect that my father will read this. Because my relationship with him has strongly influenced how I interact with my wife, kids, friends, and family. We don’t have a relationship…

“Should you shield the canyons from the windstorms, you would never see the true beauty of their carvings.”
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Elizabeth highlights a profound point.

Suffering can bring us beauty. The beauty of healing, which can lead to self-actualization. It can set us on a path to self-fulfillment. Suffering can bring us strength — strength and the resolve to withstand similar hardships through personal experience. Suffering can bring us wisdom, clarity, and so much more.

Should we think about suffering differently? Should we take brief moments during our most enduring times and appreciate it…if we can?

Several years ago…

I have four kids — three boys, and one girl. The contrast of the birth experiences between my boys and my girl is absolutely absurd.

With all three boys, the experience was probably some of the most memorable times of my life, at least times I WANT to remember — they were perfect.

We spent hours at the hospital preparing for birth. We took fun little classes on how to breastfeed with a seasoned nurse. She eased our anxieties with funny stories that injected levity into a stressful situation. Our doctor was a seasoned champ. He birthed hundreds of babies…

Depression and Suicide

Suicide is one of the leading causes of death in the United States. In fact, since 1999, suicide rates have increased in every state. A range of factors can lead to someone taking their life, but in almost all cases, individuals who commit suicide are burdened by multiple life stressors including substance abuse, depression, mental conditions, relationships issues, and financial strain.

I’ve personally experienced the darkness that leads to suicide. As an Army Veteran, I’ve deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan five times. I’ve experienced the unfortunate effects of war. War can steal your spirit and humanity. …

It’s That Time Of Year Again

Brace yourselves. You’re about to be inundated with hundreds of Medium.com stories on how to accomplish your New Year’s resolutions, why people fail to achieve them, how to break a bad habit…blah, blah, blah.

It’s really not complicated why folks don’t maintain their resolution-efforts throughout the entire year. The predominant reasons for failure are habits are hard to break, and good habits are hard to start. Bad habits, coping mechanisms, and emotional dependency are all vital factors that prevent us from making productive and healthy choices.

But, we all are very capable of change. It’s hard but possible.

According to…

Hint: It’s not good

When the pandemic kicked off in 2020, I think we learned a few things as a nation. First and foremost, we found out that we were woefully unprepared for a “doomsday” scenario. Luckily, the COVID-19 pandemic was just a glimpse into what that would look like, not the global catastrophe many of us anticipated it would be in the beginning…thank god!

I think it’s important to look at the last year and apply some lessons learned into preparing for these types of scenarios in the future. Not only from a national perspective, but for our immediate…

Nobody told me raising children would be this hard. But here I am, Christmas day, thrusted into a feeling of self-loathing and state of failure by my 6-year-old little girl.

I’ll explain how I got here, bear with me.

Whether it’s a birthday or Christmas, we designed procedures on how our family opens presents. I know, its sounds overly industrious, but there’s a method to the madness.

When our children open gifts, they are front and center while the rest of the family gives them their undivided attention — it’s their time to shine. Once they are done opening each…

I have a cat named Lunchbox. I know what you’re thinking. What’s the story behind your cat’s name? No worries, I know why someone would ask that question, well, because who would name their cat Lunchbox without some reasonable explanation?!

Poor cat, having to live his entire life being referred to as a random food container. I’ll save that story for another day.

The story I want to share with you today is an interesting dichotomy Lunchbox suffers through every day. It’s a dichotomy of deficiency and self-actualization.

First, you must understand that lunchbox is a housecat. He hasn’t developed…

A couple of weeks ago my wife was getting the kids ready for school. I have four kids, and two of my rug rats were attending school remotely and two had to be taken to school. Typically, while she prepares breakfast, finds homework, attends to my 7-year-old’s wardrobe crisis, and helps my middle son find his glasses, I am getting ready for work, scraping off windshields (depending on the weather), and helping where I can.

This day was different. First, Lyndsey had an extra task on her plate. She had to make sure our two oldest sons were set-up for…

Dominic Wise

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